You’re Over Sixty

  So now you're sixty or more.  You've come a long way and you made it without even thinking about it.  You've crossed the threshold into the golden age.

  Suddenly you realize you are a mortal.  Depending on your situation this reality can become disturbing and worrisome.  What can you do?

  Some have retired into boredom and others are panicking for some answers on how they're going to cope.  The bored have too much idle time so they think up some fictitious problem to keep themselves busy.  They've been waiting  a lifetime for this moment and now that it's here they are lost.                                                                                                                                               
  The less fortunate ask themselves: "Will the money hold out? "  What about your health?  It's the most important factor but just  thinking about everything can ruin it by sending  you into an  undiagnosable psychosomatic condition that could ultimately strike you  dead.

  Take a look at the photo above.    A wholesome trio of sixtyish individuals captured in a moment of joyfulness which can be attributed to their state of being.     Keeping in contact with friends you've grown old with goes a long way in facing the reality of what  is.

Feeling Sixty

  You know that old saying "You're as young as you feel." There's a lot of truth to that but it's hard to believe it when you look in the mirror and you can't understand what happened. Wasn't it just yesterday that you were combing a full head of hair and practicing the look that went with the line that would get you the hottest chick in sight. You feel great but the melody of youth has come and gone. Is this what they mean by "over the hill?"
   Is there no difference between being sixty and feeling sixty? Doesn't a lot of it have to do with the power of suggestion? The more you read about the consequences of this time in your life, the more you begin to succomb to them.   Is your memory really waning?  Are you beginning to suffer from aches and pains or is that what they say is supposed to happen and you yield to the powers that be and suddenly you fit the profile of the individual over sixty.

Before You Were Sixty

  Way before you were sixty when you were still in school you were pretty active.    School days meant homework, study, exams, projects to complete,  papers to hand in.   You participated in some kind of physical activity whether it be football, hockey, or just the regular gym period.  Maybe you played chess or checkers or the popular game of the day.   The movements of your body kept it conditioned  and the activity of your mind maintained it sharp and spontaneous.  Slowly but surely these physical and mental exercises began to wind down.   You got a job.  Before long everything you did was routine.  At first your mind was challenged but then when you got to know the routine, it became second nature.  You didn't have to think anymore.  Your mind and your body were on the road to a sedentary lifestyle.  Before you knew it you were sixty.  You attribute all of your woes to your age.  It just isn't so.  The lack of physical and mental activity contribute to the disintegration of our mind and body and eventually lead us into a state of depression.  We vegetate.  We don't live anymore, we exist.

Enter the Age of Sixty

  When you enter the age of sixty you tend attribute all of your woes to your age.   That kind of thinking along with the lack of physical and mental activity contribute to the disintegration of our mind and body and eventually lead us into a state of depression.  We begin to vegetate.    We don't live anymore, we exist.   We take the car everywhere we go even if it's only a few blocks away. We try to talk ourselves into thinking we walk a lot but we don't.  We eat out of boredom.   For some of us eating has taken the place of physical and mental activity.   Between bites of food you reminisce on the good times of your youth.   You daydream of good times gone by.  The good news is that you can make more memories that you can reminisce on when you're really old.    At sixty you're still in prime time.

Activity Over Sixty

  What do you do when you cross over into the sixty years?   After all you don't feel any different but society has a label for you.   For that reason you let yourself fit the label and you become part of the herd.

  You need to be active.   My own situation is a typical example.  I'm not an expert but I can give some advice based on my own experience.  I'm sixty three years old now and haven't worked in over a year.

  If you're reading this at all then you're obviously familiar to some degree with internet.
The advent of internet has changed the world of business, banking, social interaction, dating and on and on.  There's no limit.  On the internet there's everything good and everything bad.  It's up to you to choose.

For many years now I've wanted my own website just so that I could become part of the internet world.  I've tried many times in the past to start a website only to be frustrated by the technical aspect of the whole thing.
I didn't have visions of making a fortune or having my site become a household world.

  My first  objective was to  get online.  Seconldy I wanted to be able to try and make some income online no matter how little.  Look at it this way.  It's like starting a business for peanuts.  You don't need any inventory or a physical storefront.  It's all right there in front of you on your computer.

A New Hobby At Sixty

  You're in your sixties and you're bored.  Maybe you've got a hobby that's more than you can handle and you gave it up.  There's all kinds of things out there for you to do to keep you occupied and interested in life.

  My father, God rest his soul, didn't have any hobbies but his passion was people.  He loved to talk with them and get to know them.   After he retired he became a volunteer for the Cancer Society and drove people back and forth to their treatments and appointments.  There was no monetary reward but he developed an  understanding of how people cope with this deadly disease and this gave him the compassion he needed to deal with them and help them.  He saw many of them pass on to the unknown and was amazed at how they accepted their fate, especially the young.    He was providing a much needed service and he was learning at the same time.  That was his reward.

  To volunteer is not for everyone but it can give you a sense of being  needed if that's what you feel is lacking.  If you yourself have lost a  loved one then being a volunteer can sometimes fill the void.  You won't  be able to replace the loss but you can give purpose to your life and help others at the same time.

What To Do At Sixty

  Those of us who don't have a hobby would do well to take one up.  It can be something that is not too physically demanding like collecting.   Some collect records or photos or any number of things that they find interesting enough to make it their hobby.
  Myself, I'm not crazy about collecting so  I bought an acoustic guitar.  I've always had an interest in music.  I took accordion lessons when I was younger and then piano.  I chose to buy a guitar because it's very portable and I've always been lured by the sound of an acoustic guitar.  There are thousands of free sites on internet on how to learn to play the guitar and some really good sites that are very inexpensive compared to taking up music the traditional way.

It’s Not Too Late Even At Sixty

  Don't think that because you've entered the senior decade that you can't learn anything.  You now have much more time to do anything you want.  As  I previously  mentioned, my choice was to start and learn the acoustic guitar.  I'm not aiming to be a virtuoso but I want to be able to play reasonably well mostly to satisfy myself.   I've got several free sites bookmarked on my computer and I try to go to them several times a week so that I can learn new things and see some progress in my playing.  Setting aside some time for what you want to do is the biggest hurdle to overcome.  Don't procrastinate on this.  It's the most important step to begin your journey.   If you can't do it alone then take  a course in what you're interested in or a lesson or whatever it takes to have others around you doing the same thing so that you can be motivated.

Winter When You’re Sixty

  What are you going to do this winter??  Is your age going to stop you from doing the things you want to do or is it all in your mind? Stay active.  I'm in the great white North this winter so one of the things I'm going to do is go skating.  There's nothing more exhilarating than skating outdoors on a cold winters day.   Dress warm and go for a skate.    The fresh air invigorates the body and keeps the blood flowing.  It makes you feel healthy.   For those of us who aren't in good enough condition to take in this activity it's still a good practice to get outside and enjoy the winter instead of hiding indoors and waiting for the warm weather.  Winter, if you dress properly, can be a wonderful time.    If you don't have anyone to accompany you and you don't want to be alone then  get a dog and you'll see that he'll be your faithful friend for your winter walks in the snow.  Don't put your life on hold.  Adapt and enjoy.

Cash Flow At Sixty

  When you reach sixty and you're unemployed times can get pretty tough especially if you don't have any particular skills and even if you do,  employers are reluctant to hire you.  What can you do?
The youth of today have grown up with the internet and that's where more and more business is done.  You may feel that this is over your head but believe me it's not.
If you can surf around the internet and handle e-mails then you're not that far away from starting a business on the net. I'm not talking about making a million dollars but a few hundred or a thousand or 2 a month is not unrealistic.

More About Cash At Sixty

  You could probably use a few extra bucks right about now.   At least I'm one of those who can.   I traveled the world and been there and done that and the hell with the rest of it.  Like the song says,  "Regrets, I've had a few but too few to mention."    Now that I'm in the autumn of my life I find myself not broke but in need of an income over and above the meagre  earnings  I now have.  A  few more shekels would be very helpful so I've decided that I'm going to be on the internet and try to make those few extra bucks.   This idea hasn't happened overnight.   I've been researching and toying with it  for years and this webpage is the first step in the right direction.  I made it to the threshold.   It was time I took action and I did.  If you can bear with me I'll tell you how I started on another page.

Sex in Your Sixties

  A lot of people focus on the negative aspects of getting older.
The fear of being sick or of being discarded by society as a has been with nothing to offer. They think of their own family and the difficulties they had in later years.  As a result their self esteem begins to wane and so does their sex life.

  To survive all of this negativity you have to live in the now. Are you with a partner now?  A lot of people focus on the negative aspects of getting older. Is your sex life routine and regimented? Do you take each other for granted?  Has familiarity taken away the joy of sex?

  You don't have to be in your sixties to feel this way.  It also happens to the young who are sometimes too focused on careers and busy schedules.  The energy it takes to fulfill a healthy sexual relationship just isn't there.  This is often the case of two people working and having no time to spend together.

  You have to make the changes necessary to channel some of that energy so that you can be happy with your own sexuality.  The number of people who aren't happy is very high yet very few of them are willing to express to their partners what it is they need to change this feeling of unhappiness.

  If neither partner speaks up and talks openly about wanting more or less sex then their desires will remain within and each partner will assume that they are pleasing the other.

  Living conditions can also be a factor for a healthy sexual relationship. Privacy is a key ingredient and some of you may be living with a relative or an adult child and the idea of sex in the same house could be taboo. This could even be compounded if you are in those circumstances and dating.

  There are many common issues to consider if you want to have a great sex life after 60. The main focus needs to be on what is going to make you and your partner happy. There is no reason not to enjoy sex in your sixties. It’s a natural relief from stress and a basic instinct proven to be good for you health and well being.

Memory

  Do you think  you're losing it like the rest of your mind?  Do not panic.  Here's a little routine that will convince you that your memory is as good as ever.  You just have to organize it better..  Here's a little exercise to help you.  

 Take the numbers 1 to 10 and make up a rhyme for each one of them.  As an example a rhyme for 1  could be sun,  2 - shoe,  3 - tree, 4 - more, 5 - dive, 6-stick,   7- heaven, 8 - gate, 9 - dine, 10 - pen.   Now remember those 10 rhymes along with the number associated with them.  It's not necessary to use the ones  I used. Make up your own if you like.  This is what's called a peg system.

  Once you've got that down take a look at this list of 10 items.  apples,  tomatoes,  carrots,  bread,  broccoli,  bananas,  mushrooms,  chicken,  milk, and orange juice.

  Now link each rhyme with one of the items.  Give it some action.  Make it a picture in your mind.  A cartoon or something larger than life.  Make it  funny or whatever else will boost your ability to remember.

  Example: number 1:  Picture  that the sun is a big orange in the sky ready to give some juice.  Number 2:  You just stepped on a banana with your brand new shoes, number 3:  You're under the shade of an apple tree when suddenly one falls and hits you on the head,  number 4:  You are in a field and you see some mushrooms and the further you walk the more you see, number 5:  You're at the beach and you're diving for tomatoes,  number 6:  You're on a farm trying to catch chikcens with a stick,  number 7:  You won a trip  to heaven and when you get there  you see all your friends eating broccoli,  number 8:  You're at the boarding gate waiting to get on a plane and the hostess is giving everyone a glass of milk,  number 9:  You're at a restaurant just about to dine and instead of wine the waiter brings you carrots,  number 10:  You go and buy a car and you grab the salesman's pen and write him a note saying that you want bread on the front seat.  Now I haven't made any effort  to remember the 10 items I wrote down but I remember them without even trying.  I chose a would be grocery list.  You can make up any list of first 10 items and then on to as many as you want.

 

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